Yesterday was a beautiful Saturday and for once in a long time I had plans with a friend. Lynn and I went to the first of many Christmas craft shows. It was packed and admittedly a bit of a struggle with a walker but so worth it. It felt like a normal, frivolous way to spend time. And it was the first time I was out with a friend and not a family member. Thanks to Lynn for encouraging me and for insisting on taking the walker - I certainly needed it and made it enjoyable. I'm not even embarrassed by the attention it draws to me anymore. It is what it is, a means to an end. We even stopped at The Artisan Cafe for a wonderful lunch before heading home.
I feel as though a new beginning has happened. I can put in place some of the plans I have wanted for myself and family but been afraid to put in place.
I slept for most of the remainder of the afternoon because we had a supper date with friends. What I have learned over the years is to recover after an activity before you pile a second one on. I had no choice really yesterday because I was very tired. Those times when I don't feel like sleeping, lying down and resting, reading or meditating has been incredibly helpful.
Dinner at Darlene and Kevin's turned out to be a feast for a king! A healthy king that is. What a wonder array of herbs, spices and beautiful ingredients. So very delicious.
We had a wonderful evening and it was once again so great to have a normal evening with friends.
At one point, Kevin asked "What do you need Maureen?" What a perfect question to ask. What I needed was a softer surface to sit on at that point, but I hadn't wanted to interrupt the flow of conversation, so I hadn't said anything. He asked, we moved. Simple right? I must remember to ask that very question while with someone who has been sick or had surgery. Simple but perfect.
Barry was able to have a drink and wine with dinner, knowing I could drive home which hasn't happened in a while. A relaxing, enjoyable evening with friends.
This day was a long awaited day back to normal. I like normal. I like normal way better than I used to.