We have not seen any extended family for the Christmas season because it would mean travel. With a caution from my medical team I have not done our usual running around before and after Christmas. It's time to allow some normalcy to my routine in hope that the bones are fusing and muscles and tendons are reattaching and there's no further stress on the body.
It is "doctor's orders" but still hard to follow. We don't have any family in town any longer and we have our Christmas traditions of seeing them before and after. This year is an exception, we won't be travelling. I know it is sensible but it doesn't make it any easier.
My 88 year old Mother is among the family I wanted to see. I was going to go in November, than December and now I believe it may actually happen in January. It's been hard to wait. She and I talk daily and she has been sick several times, my sense of urgency heightens each time. I still need a companion to fly and Jerri is able to do that, we hope to go together later in January.
In the mean time is hasn't really felt like Christmas without our usual traditions of family, but having Meghan at home has been wonderful and Jerri is arriving today.
I'm remembering the many years, fifteen or more we hosted Christmas dinner for Barry's entire family. We had two small children at the time and it was a busy, busy time. There were no less than eleven of us, sometimes there was a few more.
Barry's parents and his stepmother arrived for breakfast and to watch the girls open their gifts bright and early. Once that was done they went home for a few hours to rest, we put the house back together and started the dinner preparations. It was a very full day, considering it was Jerri's birthday as well. After dinner the birthday cake and candles arrived and it was a birthday party. We usually fell into bed exhausted on those nights. The next day was saved for rest and playing with the girls and their new games and toys. Barry's Mom always came over for hot turkey sandwiches that evening.
Since his parent's are no longer with us, Christmas has become a lot quieter. We now get up when we wake, and take it really slow. With just the four of us to cook for it changes the flow of the day. We eat when we decide. A new tradition has emerged, Christmas dinner in our P.J's.
Things changed so quickly and so radically that I decided it was time for new traditions. Barry and I purposed a fondue on Christmas Eve. It started as a simple after church tradition and has turned into the event of the year.
Let me explain. Across town another family had lost their loved ones as well who were deeply entrenched in their Christmas. They also have two girls the same ages as ours who have known each other since they were babies. We asked them to join us. This is our third or fourth year and it is such fun. We eat like royalty and act like fools. It is such a wonderful time for both families who look forward to the whole new tradition we have created.
Many times we read quotes such as "friends are the family we have chosen for ourselves" and in this case that is entirely true. Each family with nowhere to go and nobody to see on Christmas Eve have created a tradition, that each of them wouldn't miss for the world.
Many people are lonely at Christmas, it is not just those who are alone. When you are a part of a great big family full of tradition is is easy to miss, but look for it and include others when you can.
The one ornament on my tree that resonates with me the most is "Christmas is love" because I believe it is. When you are surrounded with that love don't forget to open your circle a little and let others in.
Merry Christmas dear readers, you all have let me in; into you minds and in some cases your hearts and prayers. I have appreciated your comments and the love and concern I have felt throughout this healing time.