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Day 62.  Finding the Silver Lining. 

4/24/2015

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Dealing with disappointment is one of life's many challenges. They are there daily in small ways and throughout our lives they are sprinkled throughout in ways that are frustrating, hurtful and in some cases it can even be disillusioning. For whatever reason they are there and we must deal with them. Sometimes it is a much sought after position; a trip that gets cancelled or in my case yesterday, it was a change in date for my surgery.

My surgery date got changed from May 13th until May 27th.

With just an apologetic phone call it was done. Unforeseen circumstances was the reason, and it was difficult to find a date as close to the original date as they had. I felt stunned. I know in the great scheme of things two weeks does not make a huge difference but it certainly is when each day the pain is worse and fighting off the worry demons gets harder and harder.

All that said, it is one of those things in life I have absolutely zero control over. I thanked her and hung up. Meg and I just looked at each other in disbelief. All the organizing and preplanning will have to be looked at again. Barry has put in for holidays and a one weeks 'work from home allowance', booked a room near the hospital, and his work around the date.

I had to let it go and let it go fast. There was nothing I could do to change it. Without much time to dwell on the negative, I saw a silver lining. Although it means I cannot go to my brother's wedding for sure now, as there will not be enough recovery time - I can go to Rachel's wedding.

Margie and I have been friends for over twenty years and have been there for each other through everything. We are like sisters, her daughter Rachel is like a niece to me and her wedding is May 16th. I can go to the wedding. I quickly called Margie. Her response was priceless. She was silent. She said she couldn't breathe for a second, she was so excited!

Acceptance makes life easier; fighting reality makes it harder. Finding a silver lining is a bonus in every situation. So the next time you are faced with a disappointment, look hard for the silver lining.
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